Communication and conflict resolution
This course can be ordered on request by groups, companies, schools, kindergartens etc. It is the same as our very popular course in Norwegian.
Course date: 22-23rd of September 2018, in Ljubljana, Slovenia. Please visit the organizer’s website for more information about venue, price and signing up.
Security, coping and understanding in conflict situations.
Family harmony is often disrupted by conflict between parents and children, or between the children themselves.
This happens in most families, whether the children are toddlers, teens, or in between.
All parents should expect some conflict in their relationships with their children, and these conflicts can sometimes be quite heated. Even very heated. And when this occurs often, it can create feelings of stress, anger, insecurity, confusion, and, for some, hopelessness.
This course teaches parents the communication skills they need to reduce the frequency and intensity of the disagreements that are bound to occur in any family. You will also learn how to turn stressful conflicts into opportunities for learning and for building trust, security, and competence.
When you can keep your family on an even keel – with everybody feeling secure and united – you, the parents, will be better situated to focus on your child’s emotional and social development.
Another benefit of this course is that it helps parents improve communication and cooperation between each other, as both parents learn the skills of developmentally-oriented conflict management together.
You will learn to:
- Be more effective at preventing and resolving conflict.
- Be confident about what limits to set and how to set them.
- Be a more empathetic and understanding parent while also being a responsible leader. Combine the responsibilities of being a parent with giving your child the empathy and understanding they need.
- Ensure that your child feels understood and accepted and has coping skills for dealing with their emotions positively.
- Help your child develop their social skills.
- Deal with problems without resorting to punishment, bribery, or ignoring the issue.
- Ensure positive outcomes from conflict – for your child, yourself, your relationship with your partner, and the entire family.
The course was very interesting. We got a lot of new knowledge and ideas. All of that will be very useful at home. All praise!
We picked up effective and useful tools for preventing and managing conflicts.Hanna og Ivar
We finally feel sure that we are doing the right thing for our child.Anne og Sigurd
After taking this course, I feel more confident in conflict situations.Hege Obrestad
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Excellent, excellent lecture. A lot of practical tips. I got a lot out of it. I want more seminars like this.
This method helped me to clarify and structure some of the approaches that I’ve been already using. Definitely useful.
Lectures were great. Actually, I liked that the focus was on the lecture and questions and not so much on the workshops (an activity that sadly often goes wrong). The lecturer emphasized all that was important in a professional and understandable way. Thank you for everything!
Brief, concise and clearly presented. He had many examples which he explicitly explained. A valuable experience. I got the tools I needed to deal with conflict situations in the future. I especially like the fact that the method is not rigid and allows for flexibility. Thank you.
Although I missed most of the theoretical “introduction”, I got a lot of useful information in a relatively short time. A definitely useful and quality seminar. Thank you!
Everyday situations and examples
In the course, we focus on the everyday situations that have the potential to lead to conflict in any family.
You will learn the communication and conflict management skills you need to handle large and small disagreements between you and your children. And, more importantly, you will learn how to deal with conflicts in a way that better support your children’s social, emotional, and intellectual development.
The material you will learn in this course applies to all types of conflict situations. We will typically, depending on the audience, use examples from typical conflict situations that range from the mundane to quite concerning, including:
- Clothing choices
- Meals and food
- Going to the store
- Dropping kids off and picking them up
- Getting children out of the house in the morning
General for all ages
- Temper tantrums or children who are extremely upset
- A child who is behaving destructively or threateningly
- A child who is being physically violent (hitting, biting, etc)
- Disagreements and conflicts between children
- Computer games and TV
- Challenges at school
In this course you will learn that there are alternatives to reward and punishment. The methodology is based on scientifically documented principles about motivation, learning, and relationships, as well as social, emotional, and moral development.
We highly recommend this course for anybody who has strong-willed children.
Thank you for this wonderful course. It is one of the most useful courses I have ever taken.
Good concrete examples and solutions.
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Great workshop, especially the second day, a lot of useful tips. Good job.
Great workshop. I recommend it to all future or young parents so they could better understand themselves and the development of children. I am aware that my emotional development and the development of my child and the whole family is a lifelong process. The five phase model is a good approach J Thanks for a wonderful weekend experience.
Very good and interesting workshop. Answered to a lot of questions regarding relationship between siblings.
The workshop expanded my understanding of the parent-child relationship and how to resolve the conflict without (or with less) stress. It was exactly the right measure between theory, practice, practical examples. The lecturer is very competent, well prepared and with a great amount of experience. I recommend it to every parent.
The lecture was very interesting, with a lot of tips that I will be able to use in practice. The approach is new and I believe it will help to reduce conflicts in our family.
At the seminar, I got a lot of practical guidelines on how to improve family conflicts, and especially valuable insights on where I stumbled as a mom. I also liked the structure very much, which cleared many things that I had already done myself, but somehow could not fit into context. So, I’m going home wiser and, above all, much better equipped for all future challenges in family life.
Also for professionals, as well as parents of older children,
Although the analogies used in the course are primarily based on interactions with children, the concepts taught are highly relevant to parents of older children and teens, those who work with children in kindergartens, schools and elsewhere, as well as adults and professionals in general.
22-23rd of September 2018, in Ljubljana, Slovenia. Please visit the organizer’s website for more information about venue, price and signing up.
Frequently asked questions about the course:
How is the course laid out?
For Slovenina the course is scheduled for two full days. Learning activities are focused on concrete and practical ideas and skills you can learn to use in your everyday life. You will learn these concepts and skills through presentations, examples, demonstrations, and exercises. In addition, you will receive extensive written course materials.
Conflicts with my child are not always ordinary. My child sometimes becomes angry enough to hit, kick, bite, scream, throw things, run away and so on. Will this course help me?
Yes. As a matter of fact, an important goal of the course is for parents to learn how to deal with exactly these types of situations, which happens in more families than you might think. We discuss in detail how to prevent such escalations, as well as how to manage the situation when your attempts at prevention are unsuccessful. We also put special emphasis on learning valuable long-term lessons from these situations.
Who is this course for?
This course is relevant for all parents, although many of the examples used during the course are be based on families with children aged two to six. The course is also very helpful to daycare and kindergarten employees as well as other professionals who work with children and parents.
People with older children, people expecting their first, second, third or more child – and even people with no children in their lives – have also benefited greatly from taking this course. Actually, anybody who wants to learn about conflict management can pick up a lot of wisdom from this course.
Can I ask questions about my personal situation during the course?
Absolutely. For the most part, we deal with individual questions about particular situations towards the end of the course after everyone has a basic grasp on the practical concepts. Getting into specific situations experienced by individual participants at that point makes the discussion much more effective and easier for participants to relate to.
The conflicts in our family are primarily between the children themselves, not so much between us (the parents) and our children. Will this course help us?
This course was designed primarily to help people understand and handle adult-child conflict, but we address child-child conflict as well, especially when asked about it. Being able to constructively manage adult-child conflict is a prerequisite to being able to manage conflicts between children.
Here are some of the topics we explore in the course:
- What you can do to prevent conflict.
- How to use empathy and active listening skills to resolve disputes quickly and to calm children who are angry, tired, or experiencing difficulty (without relaxing limits and boundaries).
- How to make better decisions regarding limits and boundaries while taking the child’s integrity and point of view into account.
- Different ways to say “no” and when and how to use them most effectively.
- The really tough stuff: How to take responsibility for your own role in a conflict situation that ended negatively; how you can, over time, improve parent-child conflict resolution; how to repair breaches of trust caused by parent-child conflict.
- The nonverbal elements of communication.
- How using these principles can make setting boundaries easier for you and more constructive for your children.
- How using these principles can help your child learn social skills, set boundaries for themselves, and recognize and respect the boundaries set by others.
Hans has been training courses for parents and professionals since 2006. Before that he completed a major subject in pedagogy at PFI, Pedagogical Research Institute at UIO and also worked a period at the Oslo Police College where he taught psychology. For the past 25 years he has been actively involved in self-development and focused on learning and change processes, body-oriented methods, communication and conflict management, etc. He is also trained in the Feldenkrais method, in Communication and change processes, the Sounder Sleep System, in SE, Somatic Experiencing, and is also certified as Certification Trainer in TRE, Trauma Release Exercises.
Daily, he counsels and holds courses for parents, kindergartens and schools, and also works with body-oriented trauma therapy, learning and development processes.
The seminar will be held in English without translation.
It’s brilliant. At home, our little miss ‘helps’ us with daily chores, and we have reduced our crisis level to practically zero. This course should be mandatory for all parents!Peder
This course was very helpful to us. We have a lot less conflict now and the ones we do have are resolved easily and quickly. And thanks for offering it at an affordable price!Anne Gry Venås
This course gave me some big aha moments! Every parent should take this parenting course! Now that I understand my child and don’t just view him as ‘difficult’ I am much more patient.
It all makes sense now 😊 I was really happy to experience this workshop because it enabled me to put the right perspective to relationship with my kids and between siblings. I’d recommend it to everyone but especially teachers and pedagogical professionals.V. S.
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An inspiring workshop with great empathy and feeling for children. Obviously, too, a lot of knowledge. I will use many things in my work with children at school. The use of examples has also greatly helped to understand the approach. I like the approach that allows dignity to be maintained both for the parent and for the child, while at the same time it places leadership and responsibility on the parents’ side. I also enjoyed Hans’s pragmatic views and a sense of humor!
Great workshop. Perhaps it could very well last for 3 days because there really is so much to talk about. I got a lot of good ideas and tips on how to react in new conflict situations.
A very useful seminar, lots of concrete information and ideas on how to behave in situations and what to avoid. Would’n hurt if the seminar was longer with more time for individual issues. 😊 The lecturer nevertheless made a great deal of effort and responded promptly, but at the same time provided all relevant information. Great!
The seminar was useful. As a reminder of all the knowledge I have received at all the other familylab seminars so far. As an upgrade. Very useful. Work on self. The graph will definitely hang on the refrigerator.
I thought I was good at handling conflicts with my children but I got a very clear workframe with details on the dynamics of the conflict and successfull leadership. A lot of good concrete advice and ideas. I would be happy to participate in another similar seminar.
Congratulations! A great workshop with many practical tips.
An exceptional workshop which I first attended thinking about children, but it quickly turned my attention to myself. I’ve been thinking about how to re-evaluate, set up, color my attitude towards myself, my work, my free time, my friends and the most important thing: my boys. I came for more knowledge on dealing with children, and I gained an integrated life lesson. THANK YOU!
I was pleased with the workshop. I already knew most of the material, I only needed to clarify some detail. It was good because the lecturer presented a lot of examples. It would be great if the workshop could last a bit longer so that more questions could be answered, more cases debated.
The workshop was understandable, theoretically well put together, the 5 phase model is a very practical concept. The overall impression is good, I would recommend it!
Very good, a lot of practical examples!
Even though I already use a lot of stuff presented at the seminar, everything was very inspiring, putting things in perspective, especially the entire spiral and the 5-phase process. Many doubts I had were cleared and a lot has been confirmed. It is good that there were many concrete examples.
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